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Who’s opinion are you living by?

Today while teaching I realized that there was a new twist on the same story.  We teach that an event happened, that created an opinion that started an expectation (good or bad) which in turn led to an action.  This cycle goes around and around.  Some will call it the cycle of insanity if its producing negative consequences.   But today as I was teaching I had an epiphany as a participant (who happens at this time to be a resident of our local jail) says “yes but you are different, you don’t see me as a felon”.

So I stopped teaching sat on the table and went one by one till all 15 young men had told me: their name, who they are i.e. a father, grandfather, son, uncle, and/or husband.  Then I had them tell me what they had accomplished, i.e. graduate high school, GED, College, successful business owner and so on and so forth.

I wanted them to see who they were, not what society was calling them.  They were allowing the opinion of others to dictate who they were going to become.

I have put this cycle in so you can see how this works.

Self Fulfilling prohecy template crop

 

 

 

So my question to you is; what is the opinion you have about yourself? Now go back and rework the cycle with that opinion as your starting point.  If it is negative then please contact us so that we can help you get the cycle started on a positive cycle.  And the best way to do that is to start with an EXPECTATION that you want for yourself.  So the cycle would look like this.

Self Fulfilling prohecy template expectation crop

 

 

 

 

So today what are you believing in for yourself so that your Self-Fulfilling Prophecy will start to take a positive turn. What is your EXPECTATION in life? And quit living by the negative opinions that others have about you.

 

**disclaimer** when I talk about EXPECTATION I am not talking about winning the lottery, I am talking about: Education, Career, Home, being a good parent, being sober, going to church… real life goals that are achievable.